Nothing in life is uglier than a man who bitches about his lot in life.  As a man you need to realize that no one gives a fuck about your feelings.  The only person who cares about you, is you.  Today I’ll go over things the average guy bitches about, why its bullshit, and what to do about it.

Enough Fucking Excuses!

Stop blaming other people for your misfortunes.  Nothing is worse than a guy who doesn’t own up to his actions, good or bad.  I hear countless guys blame their parents, the economy/government, their girlfriend, disease, addictions etc on why they cant make it in life.  The things is, the fact that they have to make these excuses shows me that they truly aren’t comfortable in their own skin, and its easier to blame someone else than to own up to it.

I know a guy who has gone from one shitty relationship to another through life.  Hes doing nothing to advance himself.  Lives with other people, has a shitty dead end job, almost got thrown in jail over a woman, and blames his transient father for all of it.  Sure having a fucked up childhood can mess with you, but people have endeared far worse than you and became successful.

Be The Rock

As a man, you have to deal with the shitty end of things.  You have to do the heavy lifting (love it though).  You have to handle the messy parts of life.  You have to rise to the occasion, and its your duty to do so.  We would have been seriously fucked in the past if the men guarding the perimeter decided to just sleep or jack off all day.

Your life is going to be hard.  Quintus Curtius over at Fortress of the Mind had an excellent podcast where he told a guy that basically 80% of the things in life you have to do, you don’t want to do, but fucking do it.   No one gives a damn how hard your work day was, your testing was, or your workout. You don’t get to complain in life, and you’re a fucking man, so you shouldn’t want to.

I can’t stand a crybaby and I will not tolerate any coddling in my group of friends.  Many guys today get in their beta male, loser circle jerk sessions where all they do is tell each other that they’re all okay, fun, cool guys despite never doing anything more than playing xbox and talking about their childish interests.  Its like a modern male version of a sowing circle.

I’m not here to harp on you, but someone had to tell you like it is. If you’re feeling that sting of shame from this then here’s what to do.   When faced with a challenge run into it head first.  When you’ve gone through some shit in life, try to point out what you did to get you there.

The world doesn’t owe you shit.  You’re not special.


-J. Nyx